Nurture your separate selves: developing individual interests and hobbies relieves your spouse of the pressure to “provide” happiness for you. In addition, your solo adventures will give you new things to chat about.
Try something new together. Doing new things together can be a fun way to connect and keep things interesting.
Honest, direct communication is a key part of any relationship. Learn to be comfortable while expressing needs, fears, dreams and desires.
Apologize when you're wrong, love is not about the power strugle. Humbly admit your mistakes and don't pretend you are always right.
Respect one another. Say "thank you," and "I appreciate..." It lets your partner know that they matter.
Plan date nights. Schedule time together on the calendar just as you would any other important event in your life.
Be careful and caring when talking to your loved one. Ban from all conversations phrases such as "You always ..." or "You never ...". Generalizing and pointing fingers really hurts.
Tell him/her what upsets you. Don't pretend him/her to GUESS what's wrong and fix it. Things left unsaid have a bad habit of turning into bigger, meaner feelings towards your loved one.
Remember there’s no one who is correct or perfect in everything. To err is human. Fight for your love!
Find a picture of the two of you where you are young and smiling happily. Use it to have positive thoughts when everything else seems to be going bad.
Be forgiving. Holding a grudge has negative effects in your everyday life and it can kill a relationship.
Don't try to change your spouse, or to "fix the bad". The problem won't go away, no matter how much you argue. Learn to live with it.
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